Raven Gates and Husband Adam Gottschalk Share Secret to Lasting Marriage

Raven Gates and her husband, Adam Gottschalk, are a few couples who found love on a dating show and are still together.

The pair began dating in Summer 2017 after meeting on Bachelor in Paradise. They would eventually get engaged, then married, and welcome children, all while maintaining a stable marital relationship and raising two kids.

The married couple is now opening up and sharing their secrets to a lasting marriage. On Monday, January 29, 2024, Gates and Gottschalk sat down with Bachelor Nation for an exclusive interview, where they spilled a few of their secrets to a long marriage.

Gates first shared her favorite advice for all love birds. She asked them to make sure that their relationship, in reality, is far better than what can be seen on social media platforms like Instagram.

She stated, “Make sure that your reality is better than your Instagram can ever display. Whatever beautiful picture you post on Instagram, make sure your reality is even better than that.” Her husband then chimed in to share his views.

He mentioned that all relationships are complex, whether it’s a celebrity relationship or a normal one. He stressed that it’s essential that couples have core common values with one another and that they work out every day to keep their relationship strong.

Gottschalk stated, “Any relationship is difficult, whether you’re Bachelor Nation or a normal couple. Having core common values with one another is extremely important. Your relationship is like a muscle, you have to work out every day to keep it strong.”

“Six and a half years later, we have two beautiful kids,” he added. Gates followed up with her husband and shared more insights about what has worked for her and her husband throughout their relationship.

“First and foremost, you should always lean into arguments but forgive quickly. And someone once told us that every relationship is 50/50, so sometimes it can be 50/50, but other times it can be 99 and 1,” the reality TV star said.

Raven Gates attending a friend’s wedding with her husband, Adam Gottschalk (Photo: Instagram)

Gates continued her statement by saying that if a person in the relationship is “the 99” in one moment, the same person can sometimes be “the 1” and is dragging their feet a little bit. She added that it takes a team to keep a relationship at 100 all the time.

Her words read, “If you’re the 99 in that moment and you’re pulling the weight of the relationship, know that sometimes you’re the 1 and you’re dragging your feet a little bit. It takes a team to always keep your relationship at 100 all the time.”

She concluded by saying that she and her husband always say “100/100, not 50/50.” Well, seeing how Gates and Gottschalk have maintained a blissful marital relationship, it’s sure that their secret to lasting marriage works, at least in certain ways.

Speaking a little about the married duo’s relationship, they initially maintained a long-distance relationship. They didn’t take any further steps while they were on the fourth season of Bachelor in Paraside.

Adam Gottschalk putting on an engagement ring on his now-wife Raven Gates (Photo: Instagram)

After years of dating, Gottschalk finally decided to take their relationship to another level and proposed to his then-girlfriend in Dallas, Texas. Gates said yes, and the two engaged on May 31, 2019. However, the news of their engagement was only shared three days later.

On June 2, 2019, Gates took to her Instagram handle to share the exciting news. She shared a series of pictures showing her engagement ring and the moment her future husband went down on one knee and proposed to her.

Less than two years later, on April 16, 2021, the then-engaged duo walked down the aisle. Their wedding occurred in the same town where they got engaged, Dallas, Texas. Months later, in July 2021, the newly married duo revealed they were having a “honeymoon baby.”

On January 18, 2022, Gottschalk announced the birth of his first child, a son named Gates Zev, via an Instagram story. He wrote, “Little man made it. Had an emergency C-section after pushing for about an hour and a half. Mom and baby are doing very well.”

Around a year after the birth of their first child, the love birds announced they were pregnant with their second child. Gates humorously revealed her pregnancy, writing, “Baby #2 due in July! Any tips on two under 2? Pray for us!… especially Adam,” along with two laughing emojis.

As mentioned, their second child arrived on July 23, 2023. Gates and Gottschalk’s second child was also a boy, whom they named Max Asa Gottschalk. The Bachelor alum marked the joyous moment by sharing some adorable pictures of their baby boy.

In the caption, she wrote, “We welcomed our 2nd son on my 32nd birthday – July 23, 2023. Max Asa Gottschalk weighed 8 pounds and 1 ounce, 20 in long & was born at 8:10 am.”

Raven Gates celebrating Christmas with her husband, Adam Gottschalk, and their two kids (Photo: Instagram)

“My prayer for my sons have been that they have an unbreakable bond & each having their own separate God Given gifts to give to the world. If the last few days are any indication of what the future holds, then my prayers have already been answered,” she concluded.

Since then, the husband-wife duo have been busy parenting their two children and doing everything possible to give their kids the best. And seeing how their relationship has blossomed, it’s inevitable that they are also the best parents to their sons.